It is important to acknowledge the anger and to find ways to deal with it constructively.  In the old days we performed hard physical labor which helped to bleed off stored-up anger.  People had to dig ditches, chop wood, beat rugs, etc., Recently, one counselor, suggested that using an old fashioned rug beater was worth ten bottles of Valium.  Anger is a physical thing.  The more physically demanding the better, because it forces release of pent-up anger. 
 

• It helps to deal with anger physically – take a walk, the longer and faster the better... go for a bike ride...use an exercise bike...work out at an exercise/aerobic club....scrub floors by hand...wash walls...tear up old magazines.

• Imagine whoever or whatever you’re angry at being on the other end of your blows

• Write about your anger in a journal or even in letters that you tear up or burn.

• Crying releases anger and frustration.  Do things which forces the tears such as listening to special music, looking at photos, visiting the cemetery, doing things that remind you of your loved one.

• VENT - Talking will help you to understand the specific cause of your anger.  You often feel better after getting it out.

• Deep breathing, meditation, even counting to 100 helps muscles to relax and resolve the physical component of your anger.

• Become aware of the dangers and limitations of “inner directed” anger and “displaced” anger.  Be careful of uninhibited expressions of rage. It is critical to unleash your anger in safe ways. Set limits so that no one is hurt.

Consider counseling if your anger and/or depression continues.