Set aside a time each day to grieve privately.  Use photos, letters, mementos, or any definite reminder as aids in promoting memories. 
 

  Review the relationship chronologically from the earliest details to the most recent.  Think about only part of the relationship at a time and try to remember every detail. 
 

  Allow yourself to experience any feelings that come. 
 Let Tears Come. 
 

  Write a short farewell to doing what you reviewed.  Read this farewell aloud to yourself. If this is too painful, tell yourself you’ll do it in the near future.  Pace yourself when it comes to farewells.  You’ll know when you are ready for this. 
 

  Spend some time each day being thankful for the blessings that are yours.  Yes, you suffered a real loss.  We can all agree on that.  On the other hand, there are things for which you can be thankful.  Celebrate those blessings. 
 

  As you notice the pain subsiding in your daily sessions, you can take a vacation from the daily sessions occasionally.  Eventually you may want to reduce these sessions to once a week, but only when you can rehearse the memories without intense pain. 

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